What Is Happiness?

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Hey Lovelies! What is happiness? Does this ideal even really exist much anymore? Or it just a temporary moment we come by every once in awhile? Sure, we know it when we feel it, and we often times classify happiness with happy feelings such as when we feel a range of positive emotions including gratitude, contentment, pride, and joy. BUT, it almost feels like happiness is an enormous task in our present day and time. The world around me feels like it’s covered in a blanket of negativity and depression which makes consistent happiness difficult to thrive in. Don’t jump down my throat or anything because I simply base this claim off of bad news reported daily, observing my environment, conversing with family, friends, and loved ones, and  a good look within myself. 

In her 2007 book The How of Happiness, positive psychology researcher Sonja Lyubomirsky elaborates, describing happiness as “the experience of joy, contentment, or positive well-being, combined with a sense that one’s life is good, meaningful, and worthwhile.” This definition captures the positive emotions that comes with happiness, along with a deeper sense of meaning and purpose in life – and suggests how these emotions and sense of meaning reinforce one another. Cool! Sounds hella intelligent right? Sounds like the “right” answer, yeah? By all means, I am definitely not discrediting this  definition, because I think it’s great and better than  what I could have ever constructed! HOWEVER, happiness is subjective!

Sure, happiness is about feeling satisfied with your life and experiencing more positive emotions than negative ones – positive emotions, like feel good feelings such as love, joy, serenity, and so on. BUT! What I can’t seem to figure out is if happiness is always within an arm’s reach, why  does it feel so unobtainable most times? 

I cannot speak for any of you reading this post, but for me, I think I’ve got the happiness concept all wrong as  of late. Actually, the more and more I tap into figuring out why happiness has been more of a challenging task versus an easy peasy no brainer sorta thing, I’m learning that my problem lies within my mind. I’m 100% guilty of skewing what I think makes me happy and often find myself making choices that attempt to maximize my happiness. Ironically, the more and more I do this, the more I feel further away from experiencing happiness all the time. For example, in my present life, there are a few things I’m not all peachy over right now and I have  been busting my butt over trying to change them, but with that “right now” mentality. How far has the gotten me, you might wonder? Not far at all and lot more miserable and disgusted with these aspects in my life than happy. Bluntly put, my strategies of “go-getting” and “just figure it out” have failed because of my own thinking. Sometimes, I’m reminded to tap into what I know to work which is changing my thinking then attempting to change all the aspects of my life that make me unhappy.

Does happiness feel like an impossible destination sometimes or is it just me? There are times when I become overwhelmed with the idea of shifting my thinking to be happy because it seems like a tedious task a long road to get to. I wonder if  there’s a one-size-fits-all solution for never-ending happiness? If so, please send me the potion! LOL! Nevertheless, what does help me most times is getting necessary rest, a very clean environment, fostering relationships, helping others, and LOVE – A WHOLE LOTTA LOVE! 

OH! Guess what else is raining on our happy parades nowadays? Well at least I think so!  We’re so super busy, probably busier than ever which has caused us to become distracted from making real life social connections. Also although a beautiful blessing on one front, SOCIAL MEDIA is killing our happy vibe slowly but surely. We look at what’s what and who’s who and it feels like everyone is living their best lives, which can either be encouragement for us to keep working harder or put us in a place of depression because we’re not living our best lives too, or doing the things we truly want to do.

MIND POWER is the answer! Well, at least one of them. I’m willing to bet if we put our minds to it, happiness would come easily and free flowing daily. Yeah, yeah, I know that’s another few paragraphs, essays, etc. in itself, but it is a solution.  I’m someone who knows this all too well and I still fall into that funk of “what is happiness” because I place a lot of pressure on myself and sometimes hold myself to standards that can be difficult to reach. I end up beating myself (the over-achiever in me)  and sink into that place of depression when I don’t beat that goal or accomplish what I set out to right away….

One day at a time! One happy feeling a moment at a time….!

SMILE MORE! I wrote all this to  simply say, smile so much more, laugh so more! After all, it’s the start to feeling those feelings of happiness! 

Peace and Forever Blessings,


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